Often, warnings can make us feel one of two ways.
They can make us feel cared for, loved, and safe or they can make us feel constrained as if the boundaries make us feel like we aren’t free to do what we want. But if we remember that God’s warnings are given out of love, it can help change our perspective and help us see the benefits of paying attention to the warnings and boundaries he gives. God is the author and creator of all the good things and he wants to give good things to us.
Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. James 1:17
God gives good gifts to his children.
He has given us the gift of our sexuality. He didn’t have to. He didn’t have to create the experience of pleasure, but he did! God desires that we experience the pleasures that he has created for us. His warnings regarding pleasure is so that we can experience it in the most free and life-giving way possible. It is in freedom that we can truly experience his good gifts for us to their fullest potential.
God created desires within us.
The desire to have purpose. The desire to be wanted. The desire to be needed. The desire to be set apart, special, loved. The desire to be accepted. The desire to have agency, influence, and control. The desire to contribute to the world around us. The desire to experience pleasure. If you understand that God desires to give you good things, and that many of the desires you have are desires he has given you, how can this help you trust the restrictions he places on our lives, especially in the area of our sexuality? If you struggle or are controlled by your desires for pleasure, control, feeling desired and accepted, and it is hard to trust God to meet your needs and desires in the ways he says are best, ask him for help! Luke 11:9-13 says this,
“So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened. “Which of you fathers, if your son asks for a fish, will give him a snake instead? Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!”
In the midst of struggle, it is so powerful to remember that God is good and he loves you. He wants to give you good things.
This is hard to do because sin blinds us to Gods good FOR us and leads us to believe he is keeping good FROM us.
What are one or two areas you need help trusting God's goodness and plan for your life? If you aren’t sure, examine your actions from this past week… how are you doing with loving others? Honoring people you are in relationships with? What things are you consuming for pleasure? Are they within the boundaries God has set? Are you struggling with feeling loved? Accepted? Desired? Pray and ask God to help you trust him. Confess the areas of your life where you are fulfilling your desires in ways that he has warned against. Ask him for wisdom and then find someone you trust who you can talk to about the areas you are struggling in.